Being a husband is hard. Interacting with a woman from a man’s point-of-view can be like speaking a (very) foreign language. The further along you go in your relationship, the more it might seem like the dictionary is not static.
One word might have a different meaning tomorrow than it does today. Then, it might slip back to its original meaning before Friday.
But that’s just the half of it. There is so much uncharted territory in being a husband. How are we supposed to show up and care deeply for our women, while at the same time maintaining enough space and respect for her to show up and make her own choices? How are we supposed to balance the responsibilities of marital life without losing our individuality along the way?
Throw in 3rd wave feminism and the not only have the wheels come off, but the doors and the windows as well.
It’s a mess.
But what if it were actually simple to be a good husband? What if there was a very simple way to cut through most of the noise you experience as a man who happens to be married?
Remember, I said simple. I didn’t say easy.
Well, there is.
So many of us put the cart before the horse. We aim to be good husbands before we even know what it means to be a good man.
Of course it’s like we’re stumbling around in the dark trying to find the path. Because that’s essentially what we’re doing.
Being a good man is simple, but it’s not easy.
While there’s a deep philosophical aspect to manhood and masculinity, I’ll leave that for another time. Let’s get practical, instead. In order to be a good man, you have to look at a few key areas of your life and give yourself an honest assessment as to how you’re handling them.
Finances, for example. Are you living paycheck-to-paycheck? If you are, then it’s time to have a long hard look at how to get out of that cycle. We’ve all been there. No shame in that game. But if you find yourself repeating the same unpleasant pattern, then it might be possible to make some changes to break that cycle.
In my coaching program, I focus on 10 different areas. No, we don’t have coaching in all of those areas, but we do look at all of them to get a full picture view of what is going on in our lives.
I use a tool that I made to do that assessment. It’s called the Wheel of Life. And you can download it for free just by clicking on this link.
I hope you are well,